My Name Is Jazz: Name Changing

When I was born I was jasmin rea powdrell and when I got adoptid my mum change it and it rally pissis me of because it’s not up to them it not thear child.
I fell it is rely rong because it’s hard i nuff that been taken a way and a lot of the time thay don’t have a chose and thay don’t no why ad I fell it should be agest the law because it not ther child and it’s not up to them at all.
when I got adoptid I got name jasmin rea b*****n ad I fell it’s up to the person when they older to see.
if I had a chose it would be jazz rea powdrell because I would of like to keep that jean because my mum ad mums side was called that ad it rally mack me angry not because off my mummy bear because I love our family but the powdrell r my rail family and I do love mummy bear ad the b*****n’s. I just won’t to be with my mum and dad and brothers and when I see family all to get her it macks me fell very jealous and angry that I couldn’t have that and i no famley don’t alk ways get on but I crave the fact they live in the same house eat the same food shop together go to school together.
Argue together cry togetther, shere feelings watch telly together go to bed in the same house aloud to go out on thear on with the brothers. tell your mum that u love her and u going to be thear no matter what have a job have the famley.
kids do need thear rile perrents ad when my cousin jhonny comes I allwas think your so lucky you live with brothers and sister and u got a popper mum and u live with you rale mum and when all of my sport worker’s come I think that.

 

 

But then I look and think I’m lucky the fact I got adoptid and not in a children’s home and my mum had the guts to go and find my famley and stuck by my site every time.

4 thoughts on “My Name Is Jazz: Name Changing

  1. Jazz. This is a great piece of writing and very important for adoptive parents to read. We try our best for our adopted children but I know that is often not good enough. I wouldn’t like my name to be changed either, in fact I still use my unmarried name most of the time because it felt so strange to change it. I understand that you don’t feel lucky, but I hope one day you will feel like the luckiest woman in the world. You deserve to.

  2. A great piece Jazz and as Plumstickles says, it’s important that adopters understand how their children feel. It must seem very unfair at times that you are not with what you call your “real family” but I’m sure you do understand why that is the case. However, when others have made decisions for you, that you had no choice in, that is really hard to see as fair. I know my boys often tell me the same things. Keep writing, I always love to hear what you have to say. xx

  3. Hello Jazz,

    I want to offer you a great big thank you for your post. I am an adult adoptee & nearly half a century old! Our adoption stories are probably very different but your post got me thinking again about my names. I have THREE first names but was never sure who chose them. I was confused because some letters between Social Services and my birth father call me name number 3 and also my first name is kind of a mixture between my adopted Mum & my adopted Sister’s names. Since I was a teenager I used the shortened version of my name. Even now I still get a little bit annoyed when I’m forced to use my full first name on official forms & stuff.

    Although I’ve done a lot of finding out about my adoption and have contact with some of my birth relatives, I still struggle feeling comfortable asking questions about stuff most non-adopted people take for granted. From reading your brave post, I got the courage to speak to both my mothers about my names. My adopted Mum is very old now & doesn’t recall why or who gave me my names. My birth Mum gave 3 or 4 babies up for adoption and doesn’t remember my birth date, let alone who chose my names. Then I got the opportunity to ask my adoptive Sister. She was 18 at the time my birth was registered & was able to tell me that it was just a coincidence that my name was so similar to theirs. She remembered that my “A” Mum & my “B” Mum & my “B” Dad all went down to the registry office together & that B Mum & B Dad had argued about my names. So, I still don’t have the whole story and never will as my birth father is long dead, but I now have another little piece of the incomplete jigsaw about my identity.

    Even though there have been times when I didn’t really like my adoptive family very much, like you I am very grateful that I had a safe, secure home. It gave me lots of stability and my life would have been much more difficult if I had been in children’s homes or lots of different foster family placements. Life always has it’s struggles whether we are adopted or not. Sometimes I have felt very upset about not having a “normal” upbringing, but now I know that it has made me strong. I’ve had twice the amount of challenges from having two set of parents and more than double the pleasure from being connected to at least 4 families via my half brothers & sisters.

    I hope you keep writing and talking your truth Jazz. The world needs that, and is a better place for you being here.
    With my very best wishes for a bright future,
    jo 🙂

  4. Oh Jazz, thank you so much for sharing your feelings and experiences here. You are so honest and aware of your feelings and views and that really helps me as an adoptive mum. My girls never lived with their birth mum and dad, but they are slowly starting to explore what it means (to them) to be adopted. Your writing really helps me to remember their losses. Thank you x

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